Relationship - if there is none

"My contemporaries all already have a partner, and many have children too. I only had a few - unsuccessful - attempts in finding a partner. I have virtually no sexual experience. I live single and I am bitter. I don't even have a real friend. There is something wrong with me ."

Stress, anxiety, tension

"Sometimes I burst into tears for no reason, and I can't stop for minutes. I'm extremely successful at my job, respected and loved by those around me. I am in a good relationship. Still, the tension breaks me down and I don't know why?"

Loneliness

"I'm considered a social person, but in reality I am only pretending and I'm anxious that others will find out. I'm not sincere in my relationships. I feel the need to manipulate my "image" constantly to protect my self-esteem. If I am honest with myself I can see that I am actually lonely.  I'm scared that it will stay like this for the rest of my life."

Decision support

There are decisions that shape our entire lives. Should I accept a job offer abroad, or should I stay? My father wants me to take over his company, but my interests are elsewhere. How do I navigate this? A family member has fallen seriously ill. Where is the limit - if at all - of my committment to care for all her needs? There's an enticing yet very risky business opportunity that, if successful, could mean financial security in my family for generations to come. Am I the right person to take such risks? Our individual psychological makeup plays a crucial role in reaching sound decisions. As your decision support guide, I assist in identifying your options, weighing the pros and cons, and assessing how they align with your values, personality, and abilities. Together, we explore the emotions tied to each choice, uncover any fears or societal norms that may impede decision-making, and evaluate what outcomes you can realistically live with in the long term.

Relationship - if there is one

"I'm ruining my fifth long-term relationship. I can't be alone, but I always make the wrong choice of partner. I want children. I'm slowly running out of time. Why am I doing this and how do I stop?"

Anger

"Sometimes I get angry and I can't control myself. I yell at the postman, my wife, my child, the other driver. When I am upset sometimes I break things. This causes problems in my relationship and now also at my workplace. I am ashamed and I know that that this is a problem. But at the same time I also feel that I'm "right" in these situations. I don't understand why I'm like this. I want to change, but I don't know how?"

Success = happiness?

"I enjoy a high social status and financial prosperity, yet I've never found contentment in my accomplishments. There's a constant sense that what I've achieved is never "enough," and it could all unravel at any moment. While I may have control in my professional life, my personal life feels constantly slipping away. Despite being admired or envied by others, I harbor a hidden sense of unhappiness."

What is my problem?

Not all my clients know exactly what's wrong. They feel unhappy, anxious, unmotivated, lonely, but they don't know how they got there. Here, we need to focus on defining the problem in a more  specific way and discover its origins.Then we set goals in terms of what needs to change and support that change as it happens.

Self-knowledge

Sometimes, you may not have a specific problem, but simply a desire to gain a deeper self-understanding. Perhaps you're gearing up for a change—a new career path, a different role at work, or relocating abroad. Maybe someone caught you off guard with a strong opinion about your personality, leaving you to question its validity. Engaging with an impartial and knowledgeable party to explore important questions can be invaluable for self-awareness. Questions like: What initial impression do you leave on others? What messages do you convey about yourself—intentionally or unintentionally? What are your core values? How can you come to terms with your weaknesses? What drives you? How do I handle conflict and aggression? Delving into such questions can be a powerful means to deepen your understanding of yourself.

Self-evaluation

"When you received your promotion, did you feel proud of yourself?" No, not at all. I felt undeserving, like I had obtained it by mistake, and I was convinced I would likely fail as a leader. Furthermore, I believed it wasn't just me, but also my colleagues who shared this view."

Self-defeating behavior

"I make the same mistake again and again in my life, but I always only see in hindsight that I am at it  again. I feel helpless. I don't know what and how I should do differently, so that I don't remain my own enemy."

Parents - adult child relationship

"I am a 28-year-old woman with a Ph.D. I work as a research engineer. I have grown up and want to make independent decisions, but little by little I realize that I am still acting out of compliance with my parents. I love them, but I feel that they are a negative force in my life, even if unintentionally."